J & Kelsie’s Letter

Dear Birth Parents,

Thank you for taking the time to look at our information and consider our family in this difficult decision you are making.  We also want to thank you for choosing life for your child.  We pray every day for you, your family and the baby.  We ask God to help and guide you in this decision process and give you peace about the future of this child.

We met in college at OU through mutual friends.  We got to know each other as friends before we started dating.  We dated for 2 years before we were married on May 1, 1999.  We have now been married for almost 16 years.  The time has flown by so fast, and we can honestly say we love each other more with each passing year.  We work as a team in everything we do, and we communicate and solve problems well.  We feel that one of the most important gifts we can give our children is a loving relationship.  We both have many roles in our lives, but being a spouse and a parent is our true “calling” and the roles we take most seriously.

We have 4 children, Emma (15), Will (13), Julia (9), and Cate (16 months).  The older three are biological, and Cate is adopted.  We have always wanted a big family, but we were unable to conceive again after Julia was born.  After struggling with fertility treatments for a few years, we came to know that God’s will for us is to adopt.  Cate’s adoption was a beautiful experience.  Our love for her is no different than our love for our older children.  In some ways, she is more loved, because she has big siblings that shower her with attention too.  Cate’s adoption is open, and we see her birth mother and her two other children regularly (about every 4-6 weeks).  We also send texts with pictures of Cate two times per week.

J works full time as a Physician Assistant and CEO in a cardiology practice.  But he is very blessed to have total flexibility in his work hours for programs at school, sport games and practices and vacations.  J is a hands on dad.  The kids love the time he spends with them dearly!  They can’t wait for him to get home in the afternoon, and he is a great playmate and a wonderful example and leader of the family.  Kelsie is a stay-at-home mom.  She spends her time taking care of the kids, volunteering and taking care of the family home.  It is truly a blessing to be able to stay at home with our kids.  We work as a team in parenting and are consistent in our discipline.  We value our time with our kids and as a family.  We love to have fun together!  We enjoy the lake, camping and vacationing.  We go snow skiing, to the beach and to many other exciting places.

We are a busy bunch!  Our kids go to a private school and participate in athletics.  Despite all the things happening in our schedules, we manage to eat dinner together every night of the week, and we deeply value our time together.  We recognize the importance of children learning from their parents first, not their peers.

We are all excited about adoption and adding another person to our family!  The kids screamed with joy when we told them about trying to adopt again.  We have been praying about God’s plan for our family for several years, and now we pray for you, your family, your child and our future as an adoptive family.  We trust that God has a plan for us and for you, and that the child that is meant for our family will come our way.

Thank you for taking the time to read our letter.  If you have any questions, we would love for you to ask.  We hope to meet you soon!

J and Kelsie